Unlocking 10 Empowering Insights: Interviewing Sophia Rose, a Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist, for Ultimate Connection

Hi there, Shibari and Rope Bondage Lovers!

What is a shibari and rope bondage specialist? Can a shibari and rope bondage specialist experience a drop after a rope scene? Does it make a difference what rope one uses? Can one enter Subspace doing shibari? Okay, so I don’t have the answers to any of these questions. However, I do know a Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist who has the answers to your questions.

Sophia Rose – Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist,  has one of the most intriguing shibari and rope bondage specialist IG accounts I have come across, As a Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist she makes informative and educational videos explaining rope bondage-related themes. Rope is not a kink or fetish of mine; I’ve never requested it in a session, but the moment I came across Sophia Rose’ account, she had my full attention. She not only explains things very well but also with passion in her voice.

I was so intrigued after watching a few of her videos that I reached out to her not only to learn more but also to interview her for my blog. She agreed, of course. However, she mentioned that she would much prefer to voice record her answers than to write them, which I was happy to listen to and transform into text. I think this method helped me really take in everything Sophia was saying and has given me a better understanding of rope. 

I’m seriously super excited to share this interview with you because I think it’s amazing, and I hope you will learn as much as I have. Anyhoo! That’s enough about that. Let me now introduce you to the wonderful Sophia Rose – Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist.

Now, over to you, Sophia Rose, a shibari and rope bondage specialist!

Introducing Sophia Rose – Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist

Hi, I’m Sophia Rose. I am based in London, and I work with rope bondage and kink. I am a shibari and rope bondage specialist. 

I’ve been exploring kink for about 12 years and rope for just over 10 years. As a Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist, I teach classes, offer sessions, and generally, in my work, I hope to create a space for people to explore their most authentic sexual and sensual selves. This can look and feel very different for each individual, based on their unique experiences. Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist

Interviewing Sophia Rose, a Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist

1. How would you describe Shibari to the uninitiated? And do you practise any particular broad style of Shibari – Western / Japanese?

Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist: Without delving into a lengthy history lesson—though I encourage people to seek more information about shibari, kinbaku, its roots, origins, and differences—when it comes to explaining and highlighting the distinctions between Western-style bondage and shibari, the emphasis in shibari truly lies in the pleasure of the process.

So, instead of using the rope merely as a means to an end and solely focusing on the play that begins or intensifies once the rope is on, with shibari, the play, pleasure, and enjoyment arise through the approach of tying someone. It’s about the way you apply the rope to someone’s body, their response to it, the touch, movement, play, the moments created, and other actions—whether completing the tie or savouring those moments when untying.

So, it’s less about the goal, the final destination, and more about the journey, which is really great because then everybody can enjoy it no matter what stage they’re at. Even with very minimal technique in shibari, you can connect and be present with emotions and sensations with your partner.

2. What sort of rope do you use and are there different types?

I use Jute ropes because they work well for the style of bondage I enjoy. There really is no right or wrong rope to use. Jute works well for more intricate ties and stricter restrictive bondage due to its balance of being soft enough on the skin to avoid abrasion, yet tight enough to create intricate knots and frictions without compressing too much. Very squishy, soft cotton bondage ropes, on the other hand, may make it harder to achieve tight complex frictions and patterns, requiring more squeezing and tension compared to Jute ropes for the same level of restriction.

I also use cotton ropes sometimes for gentle bondage or face bondage because they’re softer and much easier to wash. You can also use hemp, cotton, silk, bamboo, synthetic nylon—there are many different styles of rope, each with its own pros and cons. Try them out and see what you prefer. Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist

3. Can one tie be more intense than another e.g. Floor work compared to suspension?

Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist: The question of whether one tie can be more intense than another is really personal because what one person finds physically intense may be totally relaxing or comfortable for another, and what one person finds emotionally or psychologically intense may not affect another. We all have unique bodies, limits, physical needs, and psychological experiences. 

It’s challenging to determine what will be intense for one person versus another until you get to know somebody and explore their body and mind. That being said, some things may be challenging for some people, especially for those new to rope, as it takes time to adjust their body to certain sensations. However, I wouldn’t like to make generalized statements about something being easy or hard because it truly is personal.

4. As the rigger / rope top can you place the ropes anywhere on the body or are there certain areas that you have to avoid?

I would strongly urge anyone interested in shibari or rope bondage to ensure they thoroughly research safety, nerves, and risk awareness because rope play is considered edge play. It can lead to permanent or long-lasting damage and, at worst, death. While it might sound alarming, it’s crucial to emphasize that people have died during rope bondage due to asphyxiation or suffered severe injuries, nerve damage, or joint damage from falls. If someone were to fall while heavily restricted, it could result in severe permanent damage to the head or back.

Therefore, it’s essential for people to conduct research and engage in rope bondage in a risk-aware manner.

Moreover, when considering the comfort and sustainability of rope placement, it’s crucial to think about areas with fat and muscle on the body versus areas more likely to have nerves and bone. Tying tightly around joints, such as elbows, knees, wrists, armpits, ankles, and the neck—areas where joints meet and bone is closer to the surface—is generally a higher-risk practice.

I will add that the best way to mitigate risk is not just to learn about the placement on the body and the warning signs, but also to maintain good communication with your partner. Finding ways to check in, whether verbal or non-verbal, should be a built-in process. This means not only checking in when something is going wrong but also communicating what feels good.

It’s important to express when you might be approaching a limit or starting to feel uncomfortable, rather than waiting until a serious issue arises. Since everyone is different, becoming more risk-aware involves ongoing communication with one another. Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist

5. Are there any risks from doing Shibari?

Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist: As answered in the previous question, there are, of course, many risks to rope bondage, including nerve damage, falls, abrasions, and pulling joints or muscles in ways that can cause inflammation or tears. Damage to the joints can occur if extreme pressure is applied in suspensions without considering their limits. So, there are numerous physical risks, and although there are ways to be more risk-aware, it’s crucial to acknowledge the high level of physical risk.

Shibari is often seen as artistic and is frequently represented in mainstream art and media more than other types of kink and BDSM. However, it’s important to note that it’s not necessarily safer.

In addition to the physical risks, there are also psychological risks associated with all kinds of BDSM. Rope bondage, in particular, is vulnerable to this due to the aspects of restrictions and power dynamics inherent in tying. Regardless of whether participants consciously adopt a Dom/sub role, a significant power dynamic is present. This vulnerability extends to both the person tying and the person being tied, involving a surrender of certain elements of vulnerability.

The entire process relies heavily on trust. Alongside the physical risks, there are psychological and emotional risks, highlighting the importance of discussing consent, boundaries, and communication. It’s crucial to engage in activities in a way that leaves participants wanting more rather than less.

6. Are there any stretches / exercises you would recommend for rope bottoms / rope bunnies or even for that matter rope tops / riggers?

I wouldn’t say that people have to specifically do different types of stretches. Of course, if you’re wanting to try something a bit more strenuous on a certain part of your body that you know you have an injury or some tightness, it makes sense to do something that keeps you limber or a little warmed up. But, most of all, the whole point of rope is not necessarily to do flexible, intense, compressed, expanded ties on every single person.

The point is to feel something with one another, and if that involves stretching somebody really intensely because that’s what makes sense for their body or the type of scene you want to do, then yes, do it. But you shouldn’t be trying to replicate or squeeze people into positions that don’t actually make sense for them.

Sometimes I’ve had situations where, for sessions, people have come along and said they really want to do something and show me a picture of somebody with a completely different body type, a completely different level of capability, and I’m thinking, “What are you actually trying to achieve with that kind of position?” If it’s just recreating positions, it is far less interesting than creating a headspace that is going to be pleasurable, erotic, or intense for both people.

So, it’s not just about what you do but how you do it, and if you think about the intention in which you want to tie, the positions, and the amount of flexibility that somebody does or doesn’t have, it doesn’t matter that much.

I would also say that, of course, taking care of your body, staying hydrated, making sure you are not super hungry, tired, or sore from a workout or some other strenuous activity will probably mean your bondage experiences are going to be more pleasurable. People don’t have to be yoga fanatics or super fit to enjoy suspension or rope.

It’s really up to you what feels good. However, I would say for people who tie, it’s probably more important to think about maintaining some level of care for your body because you might have to move people, hold people if you’re suspending; you’re going to have to think about lifting people. Riggers and people who tie often have damaged backs, shoulders, fingers, or hands because they are not taking care of their bodies and doing a lot of moving and holding of other people. So, it actually goes both ways when preparing for rope. Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist

7. Can you enter subspace doing Shibari?

Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist: You can definitely enter subspace during rope. It depends on the kind of scene that people are doing. Of course, if someone is doing a predicament scene or something with intense, painful, or sadistic bondage, you might experience more of an adrenaline rush, leading you into a different type of subspace or headspace. Whereas a scene that is more gentle, slow, or building, or perhaps something around endurance where the pacing is different, will definitely or potentially lead to entering a deeper subspace.

People often talk about completely losing track of time or losing track of what’s happening in terms of where their body is, getting a sense of the bondage all around them. Not necessarily being able to visualize what the ropes look like on them or what their body was doing, it could be quite deep. The combination of touch, restriction, pressure, and movement can be intensely grounding, focusing, and also trance-like at the same time.

I would also say that it’s the same for the person who is tying; you can get into a really intense Top space, headspace that is very focused, very aware of just me and the other person, of their body, their breathing, or the tiny little micro movements. It’s incredibly exhilarating, exciting, and erotic, and I love it.

8. Do you get Top / Bottom drop after doing a rope scene?

People can, of course, experience drop. Drop is described as the return to normality after an intense scene, which can occur with all types of kink and BDSM. However, especially with rope, when you layer the intense power dynamic, the loss of control, the amount of trust, along with all the physical sensations that release a lot of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin into the body, or adrenaline and cortisol fuel, playing with stressful elements can definitely lead to a bit of a drop, either immediately after or in the days following.

This can be supported by going slowly out of intense scenes, not rushing, and taking time for aftercare for both parties—both Tops and bottoms need aftercare.

This might look different for everybody, but taking time to process, checking in with one another directly after the scene if needed, and often a few hours or even the next day is crucial. People sometimes require time and space to process their experiences.

I would also like to emphasize that drop is distinct from feelings. The emotions around abusive situations, consent violations, or harm may be intense, but if you’re experiencing fear or abandonment without the space to process it, something might have gone wrong in the scene. It’s important not to confuse such feelings with drop.

Drop is an experience people may have, and it involves processing the return to your body and daily life after engaging in intense activities outside your routine. This is distinct from any negative or sad feelings that may arise, especially if something went wrong during your rope scene. Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist

9. And finally, What are you working on right now? Anything exciting? 

Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist: There are a few things I’m currently working on and will continue to pursue. One of them involves engaging in more lovely collaborations with other prodommes and Sex Workers in the scene. I have a background in various types of sex work, predominantly prodomming, and during many years before lockdown, my focus shifted to rope. Now, I mostly create content related to niche erotica, rope bondage, and femdom, particularly as a rope top. I find it exciting to explore these areas and currently,

I’m actively involved in private teaching and small group sessions. My aim is to equip others in the industry, including Sex Workers and prodommes, with the skills and tools to effectively incorporate rope into their sessions. 

Watch this space! If you have any questions about what I’ve shared, feel free to ask. Thank you for this interview.

10. Have you ever integrated rope bondage with other BDSM activities like pegging, sensory deprivation, or foot play? If yes, which BDSM activity do you particularly enjoy combining with rope bondage?

So I think it’s really important to acknowledge that people come to rope for all different reasons. For some people it’s purely rope they enjoy; they enjoy the aesthetic, they enjoy the restriction, they enjoy the connection, they enjoy the touch, the sensation and for others rope is an element they like to Incorporate within other BDSM play. 

So of course, you can just solely explore rope on its own but I definitely enjoy incorporating rope with other activities like spanking or pegging or any kind of sensation or D/s play. I’ve also done recently a fun session that incorporated rope and handcuffs. So, it really is up to you as an individual whether or not it’s simply rope you enjoy or if it’s something you want to incorporate with other activities, there is definitely a pleasure simply in the process of tying and being tied.

But rope can also be the means to other things that can be very pleasurable and serve as a great tool that is, shall we say, very adaptable, and versatile for different bodies and needs and scenes. So it can be fun on its own and something I definitely like to incorporate in other types of play. Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist

There we have it, Shibari and Rope Bondage Lovers!

Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist

I hope you enjoyed reading ‘Unlocking 10 Empowering Insights: Interviewing Sophia Rose, Shibari and Rope Bondage Specialist, for Ultimate Connection’ and found it informative and educational. Moreover, a big shout-out to Sophia Rose, shibari and rope bondage specialist. Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to answer my questions to educate Podopheleus readers.

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