Hello again, Lovely Kinksters!
Let me ask you this, why are women slut shamed? Is there a safe space for slut shaming? How can women openly express their sexuality without the fear of being called sluts and shamed? Unfortunately, I don’t have the answers to these questions.
That’s why I decided to interview Charlotte Douleur who runs a safe space called Slut Social! A movement to help women embrace their sexuality wholeheartedly without the fear of shame or stigma. Are you eager to learn more about Slut Social? Let’s dive in, shall we?
Introducing Charlotte Douleur
Hi Podopheleus readers! Thank you for having me. I’m Charlotte Douleur, a professional dominatrix based in London. My special interests are in humiliation and chastity. I love to laugh and this serves as a fun creative outlet for me. I’m a woman with her fingers in many pies (amongst other things), one of which is my slutty little community, Slut Social.
1. Can you explain exactly what Slut Social is?
Slut Social is what I wish I had in my early 20’s, living in London. It is a sex positive, safe space to meet like-minded sluts! The events range from simple socials to workshops and talks, with the common aim to bring women and enbys together, thus making new connections easier. Making friends as an adult can be incredibly hard!
I had spoken to so many people online who were scared to take their first step into the kink world or wanted to attend play parties but were nervous to go alone. I wanted to create that in between steps. I had known of Torture Garden since I was 18 but could not find the courage to go until I was 26, only when I had met someone already part of this world.
Fast forward several years and I’m now a professional dominatrix. I want to empower as many sluts as possible to embrace and explore their sexuality and kinks.
2. Would you say that Slut Social is a movement for women to reclaim their power?
Absolutely! We’re all about slut faming and strides of prides at slut social.
3. Tell us about Slutopia. What is it all about? Is it just for women and enbys? Or can men attend also?
Slutopia is our social that we plan to hold regularly. Other events are smaller and activity based and also have slutty names. Slutopia hosts around 60 sluts to meet and mingle. I run this in collaboration with Q Topia who are a small not for profit second hand kink wear pop up shop. I want to support and collaborate with as many women and enbys as possible.
Men cannot attend Slutopia, but I do occasionally allow my favourite subs to serve at other events. I have had them deliver things, run a cocktail bar, provide foot rubs, serve as a table and general cleaning and tidying. Some of the events can be quite messy!
We hope to expand to host larger events and play parties where men will be allowed on a plus on basis.
4. The word ‘slut’ carries so much stigma that a great deal of women do everything in their power to keep it discreet or deny themselves. What advice would you give to those women?
A woman can be called a slut by merely existing. The word is used against us no matter what we do, whether we sleep with 10 people in one night, or have sex once before we’re married, or maybe we’re just wearing revealing clothes. There is no escaping it. Or if you do, you’re then a prude. We can’t win.
Empowering yourself to use and own the word slut, disempowers people using it as a weapon against you. Proudly using the word normalises women enjoying sex and being as sexual as men. Women’s pleasure is not talked and taught about enough!
Be a slut! Enjoy yourself!
5. What advice would you give to women who have been victims of slut-shaming?
Being slut shamed affects us all so differently. There isn’t one magic solution to make everyone feel better. We all come from different backgrounds and it can hold so much more weight for some people.
My general advice would be to start unlearning and unpacking why it personally affects you. Look at the people that have shamed you, what are their views? Why are these their views? Do they resonate with you, or are they one’s you want to detach yourself from?
It is a real privilege to be out and slutty. I have an incredible group of friend’s and my family are supportive of my career choices. Not everyone has these privileges and it’s easy for me to say just don’t let other people’s opinions matter or affect you, when in reality someone’s job or home life might be at risk. Even now, it’s still common place for people to hide their faces on sex positive apps/sites.
My general advice to you would be to start examining why people have these views and opinions and then getting to the root of that. Reassure yourself that it is not at all a reflection on you and there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a slut!
5. How did you become so passionate about embracing your inner slut? What is your story?
I remember being slut shamed as a teenager before I ever had sex and realised quickly that it just didn’t matter what I did or didn’t do, I would always be considered a slut. People will always be looking for ways to put you down so I just decided to own it. Why wouldn’t I want to be able to enjoy sex and my sexuality in the same way a man gets to?
I’ve never been a person for tradition or following the rules and always enjoyed creating a bit of havoc wherever I go. Rebelling against things I find nonsensical has always been in my nature. Being shamed for being sexual when it’s a natural human desire, made no sense to me.
7. Aside from slut social, do you have any other kinky passions you would like to share with Podopheleus readers?
I love art and photography. Occasionally I paint when I’m in the right frame of mind, usually large abstract pieces. Currently I am glued to my camera. I want to support other sex workers with my work and try to shoot with people where and when I can, at no cost.
This can be such an important part to someone’s success but also incredibly expensive and not accessible to everyone. I’m not a professional photographer, but I want to help where I can. I also love collaborating with other kinksters who help bring my crazy ideas to life.
Thanks for having me! Hope you’re all being extra simply this Simptember. Looking forward to having your key around my neck this Locktober.
Charlotte Douleur
There we have it, Kinksters!
I hope you enjoyed reading this fantastic and informative interview blog in relation to Charlotte Douleur’s – Slut Social, sex positive movement for women. A massive Shout-Out to the sex-positive – Charlotte Douleur! I thank you hugely for taking time from your hectic schedule to answer my questions.
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Much Kink Love,
Podopheleus 🖤
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