The crying man / societal stereotypes

Hello again Kinksters, what are your thoughts on a crying man?

What do you think when you see a crying man? I have a question for you. If a man cries in front of you, does that make him feminine? Is it a sign of weakness? Does he need to “Man-Up.” Is it socially acceptable for a man to cry in front of other people?

Let’s find out, shall we?

Going back in time

When I was at primary school I remember a boy awkwardly falling on my arm. The pain was immense and I could barely lift my arm. I started crying instantly. A teacher came over and asked what was wrong with me? I started explaining what had happened. He told me to stop crying, and to stop being such a wimp. I tried to explain to him that I had really hurt my arm, but he didn’t want to hear it. “Go on, get to class and stop crying”. He said. So I did just that. I went to the next class, like nothing had happened. I stopped crying. Nevertheless, all I had wanted was for the pain to stop. I sat quietly bemused until it was time to go home. When I had gotten home from school, I explained what had happened to my parents. My father was a pharmacist, and suspected that I had fractured my arm. To cut a long story short, my parents took me to the hospital, and I knew, before the doctor told me, that I had fractured my arm. Yup. I had to wear a sling on one arm for some time afterwards.

So, that was evidence, Mr… Erm… Whatever the heck your name is, to suggest that I wasn’t faking it! And guess what, guys? He never even apologized to me. What a cunt, right?

So why am I telling you this story?

From a young age, boys are taught that crying is a sign of weakness. In order to qualify as “Manly” young boys need to be tough. So from young boys to men we go through life suppressing our emotions. Which is why so many men struggle to express their feelings. So instead, they hide behind a fake mask. They use drugs, alcohol, and other forms of addictive behaviours as a form of escapism. I have good friends who fall into the category of “fake masks” and “addictive behaviours” . They are running away from their emotions instead of addressing them head on. Whenever someone asks them how they are feeling, their response is always the same. “Everything’s fine” when in actual fact,  Everything’s NOT fine! In all honesty, some of my friends just need a good ol’ cry.

Journaling your feelings

So, I love journaling my feelings and I try to journal as much as I can. Journaling is a wonderful way to express your feelings and daily emotions. However, whenever I mention journaling to friends, they look at me like an alien. Some have even said “fuck that” or “that’s a bit gay” It’s funny how people associate “journaling their inner feelings” as gay. In essence, they are referring to “journaling their feelings” as a feminine trait.

Who is a real man? Tupac Shakur

In Hip-Hop when rappers are open about their emotions, they are called emo rappers. It’s evident that men are afraid of expressing their emotions. That’s what I love about Tupac Shakur. Tupac came across as a man’s man. People looked up to Pac, he took five bullets and miraculously, survived. People looked at Pac as a strong, tough person. But to me, Pac wasn’t strong because he took five bullets and survived, Pac was strong because he wasn’t scared to express himself. Watch interviews with Tupac. Pac laughed, joked, yelled and even cried in front of the camera. He wasn’t trying to hide anything, he just let it all out – frustration, anger, grief, sadness. Furthermore, In Pacs era, rappers rapped about bitches and hoes, but then came along Tupac Shakur who made songs like “Dear Mama,” “Keep your head up,” and “Brenda’s got a baby” at that time, no one had ever written a song before about their mum. Additionally, you could hear the emotion in Pac’s voice throughout the whole song. To me, Tupac is the definition of a “Real Man”.

Crying in front of women

As previously mentioned, I’ve cried in front of three Dommes.

🔹Mistress Sakura Strike – was the first Domme I started crying uncontrollably in front of. My father had just passed away, and my head was all over the place and I needed a good cry. I have to give a big shoutout to Mistress Sakura, she was really sweet about it and she really cheered me up at the time. I just wanted to let you guys know that I’m not scared to show my emotions, furthermore, I am not scared to show the real me!

To read the full story, click here

🔹 Goddess Cleo and The Foxtress (Double Domme session)

This was completely unexpected. I started crying uncontrollably in front of Goddess Cleo and The Foxtress during subspace. I won’t go into all the details here. To learn more about my subspace experience with Goddess Cleo and The Foxtress, check out the link here

Just so you guys know, it was this unique experience that gave me the idea to write this blog post.

Who are the real men?

“The real man” is not the man at the gym who is bench-pressing the weight of a snooker table or the man who is widely considered the best fighter or the man with the gargantuan cock. So, who are the real men? Real men aren’t scared of expressing themselves. Real men aren’t scared to express their feminine side. Real men are honest, with themselves and with others. Furthermore, real men give women the respect they deserve. Also, allow me to point out that vulnerability is attractive.

In summation

Let out your emotions, as opposed to attempting to suppress them. If you’re happy, burst out laughing. If you’re sad, have a good cry. If you’re angry, express it, just so long as you don’t hurt anyone. There is no shame in being real.

There we have it, kinksters! What’s your definition of a real man? Is it good/bad, attractive/unattractive for a man to cry?  I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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