What is a FLR/Female Led Relationship?

Podopheleus interviews Goddess Sikha on all things FLR…

1. For the uninitiated, what is a FLR/Female Led Relationship? And what does it entail?

A Female Led Relationship (FLR) is a type of relationship in which the female partner takes on the dominant role. This means that she is in charge of decision-making, setting boundaries, and providing direction for the relationship. It can involve different levels of intensity depending on the couple’s desires and preferences.

The FLR can also take many forms such as a traditional marriage, an open relationship, or even a polyamorous and polygamous arrangement. In any case, it is important to remember that communication and mutual respect are key components to making any FLR successful. 

Female-led relationships are beneficial because they foster increased communication and collaboration between partners. When it comes to creating an equal and trusting environment, it’s essential for both parties to be able to express their opinions and feelings freely. The focus of a female-led relationship is on mutual trust, respect, and communication, which can encourage one partner to take the lead in decision-making and make decisions with the other partner’s best interests in mind.

This type of relationship is becoming increasingly popular among couples looking to explore new levels of intimacy, trust, and even kinks or fetishes. A blog post by one couple in a female-led relationship says that “exploring new ways of communicating about sexual desires in a safe environment can help both partners come closer together emotionally and physically”. This further emphasizes how beneficial these types of relationships can be.

Furthermore, female-led relationships can help to empower women, allowing them to take a more active role in decision-making within the relationship Moreover, female-led relationships can be a great way to empower women and allow them to take control of their own lives. Not only can they help in decision-making within the relationship, but it can also give women an opportunity to have their voices heard in other aspects of their lives.

This form of empowerment is invaluable for those looking to gain autonomy in their professional and personal lives.

2. In your Twitter bio you mention that you a FLR advisor , how did this come about? And what makes you qualified to be an advisor?

A FLR advisor is an essential part of any planning process. I like to  provide guidance and advice on the best strategies to reach anyone’s relationship goals. A FLR advisor like me can help you identify any potential risks and create a plan that will protect your deep dark fantasies, mind and emotional investments in the long term. A person like me like to offer advices on how to maximize your returns and minimize any potential future risks when it comes to turning your deep dark fantasies, fetishes and desires to reality.

With my expertise, I can and I  helped a lot of people to make more informed decisions as to how to live a non conventional life, away from the stereotypical, hypocritical , conventional system and society in a safe and secured way . Being a sexual deviant is normal and the most normal thing that anyone can do is to be themselves freely and unapologetically. They should not be programmed and conditioned by the conventional system and society.

I am a fashion designer and a creative artist. I am also a research microbiologist doing my PhD. I feel that I can help people in a much better way being a Dominatrix , than being a Microbiologist. Sexual frustrations is a major cause for any crime, violence and other weird activities. I am born in India, where we are born and brought up with liberalism to sexual culture but when kids step in the real society, then they feel that suddenly someone hijacked the principles with which they grow up.

The fairytale dreamland of theirs suddenly turns into a land of monstrosities and that’s where they feel disconnected . The Indian culture and tradition might be sexually liberating but the current status of the socio economic structure of India at present is beyond conservative. In such an environment I got a chance to be an opinionated woman and I preach BDSM , particularly FLR unapologetically.

As an experienced relationship advisor, I have seen first-hand the unique challenges that female-led relationships face. I have worked with hundreds of couples, teenagers, kinksters and queers to help them navigate the complexities of their relationship and find solutions that work for them. With my knowledge of gender dynamics, communication strategies, and conflict resolution techniques, I am confident in my ability to provide meaningful advice and support to people in female-led relationships.

My experience has shown me that when both parties are willing to put in the effort, a successful relationship is possible no matter who is leading it. Academically my degrees are as follows-

  • B.Sc Microbiology(2012 passout)
  • Advance Diploma in Fashion designing(2014 passout)
  • MBA in fashion management and entrepreneurship(2016 passout)
  • M.Sc Biotechnology(2018 passout)

Currently I am pursuing my Doctorate in the psychology of Sexual deviants & Development of sustainable and eco friendly fabrics.

So I believe I possess adequate qualifications to be a FLR advisor.

3. Why so many men seek Female –Led Relationships? What’s in it for them?

what is a FLR/female led relationship

Sexism, misogyny and violence against women has been an age-old problem. But a growing trend of men seeking Female-Led Relationships (FLR) is proving to be the silver lining in this chaotic situation. Men in FLR’s are not just given privileges by the women but also get to live a much better life with unparalleled emotional stability and respect. Men are taught not to cry. A tear in a man’s eye is a symbol of what the society and system terms as unmanly. Such emotionlessness, fulfilling so many responsibilities- that’s patriarchy. Inherently, patriarchy is very constricting and suffocating. To escape this crippling societal prison, men seek other forms of unconventional relationships.

So why are men opting for Female – Led Relationships? What’s in it for them? Put simply, it is the sense of security, trust and respect that men are getting from being with an informed, strong and self-confident woman. They find that when women have more power over the relationship dynamics, ample time is taken out for communication which helps them build strong foundations along with compatibility. Moreover, this structure lessens any chances of cheating or conflict which would compromise the integrity of their relationship.

Female-led relationships are becoming more and more popular, as men seek something different from the traditional patriarchal relationship. These relationships offer something unique and often refreshing for couples who want to try something new. Men in these relationships are finding themselves enjoying a partner who can take charge and can provide a sense of balance, stability, and comfort.

This provides an opportunity for them to explore new heights in their partnership, fostering mutual respect and communication that conventional relationships tend to lack. In many ways they seek to reclaim the ancient dynamics of equity where both people have equal say, rights, respect and responsibility in the relationship.

Some men seek FLRs so that they can have a sense of freedom within their relationship; a chance to express themselves without feeling judged or criticized by their partner. Other men may enjoy having someone make all the decisions – taking away any stress related to making difficult choices. Still others may be looking for guidance from someone who is wiser and more experienced than themselves. Ultimately, there can be many different motivations for a man to seek out a FLR – it all comes down to what works best for each individual couple.

4. Are there any particular rules that men have to comply to be in a Female-led relationships?

When it comes to Female-led relationships, men tend to have questions about their roles and responsibilities. After all, it can be challenging for a man to accept that his female partner is calling the shots. However, this type of relationship has significant potential for both parties – the woman can lead in areas she excels in while the man explores his sexually submissive side.

To make this arrangement succeed, there are some specific rules that must be followed and understood by both partners. These include open communication, respect for each other’s preferences and boundaries as well as an understanding of one’s roles and rights within the relationship. With proper understanding of the ground rules, Female-led relationships can provide great insights into mutual growth between partners.

What kind of rules do men have to abide by if they enter into a female-led relationship? With more and more couples choosing this dynamic, it’s time to explore what some of these roles entail and how they could bring more balance, autonomy and respect into modern relationships.

5. What are the biggest kinks and fetishes associated with Female –Led Relationships?

The exploration of fetishes and kinks in female-led relationships is becoming more mainstream. But what is a fetish? A fetish is defined as an activity or object that causes sexual arousal. In this blog post, we will explore the different fetishes and kinks that are popular in female-led relationships, as well as discuss how to safely explore them. So, let’s dive in!

It is important to remember that kinks and fetishes are not always sexual in nature; they can also involve unique practices or behaviors that allow people to explore different sides of themselves. For example, some people use blogging as an outlet to express their kinks and fetishes in a safe, non-sexual manner. Through blogging, they can engage with like-minded people and share stories, experiences and ideas. This can be incredibly empowering and liberating for those who wish to explore their deepest thoughts, fantasies and desires without judgment.

By understanding that there are different ways to explore our fetishes, kinks and fantasies we can help create a space where everyone is open to engaging in such activities without feeling ashamed or embarrassed. Fetishes and kinks are far more common than most people think, and it’s important to break down the taboos that exist around them.

Which is why I think it’s important to have open-minded discussions and address topics like fetishes and kinks on blogs – because they exist and they’re normal! In today’s society, many people feel pressure to keep their fetishes or kinks secret, which means they don’t get to explore their sexuality in an open and safe way. Blogs are a great platform for these discussions as they offer an anonymous space for people to share their thoughts and experiences.

So if you have a fetish or kink you want to talk about, find a blog that covers this topic. It’s an empowering way to learn more about yourself, your desires, and the possibilities out there.

6. How does one know if a Female-led relationship is right or wrong for them?

BDSM can be a powerful tool for exploring power dynamics and creating intimate connections between partners. This subject can be freeing for many people, as it allows them to explore the different aspects of their relationships and sexuality. Additionally, through this, one can gain insight into their own feelings and motivations behind BDSM. FLR & BDSM can also provide a safe space for people to express themselves, as well as to learn more about the experience from others.

By engaging in honest conversations, we can be more understanding and tolerant of different approaches to BDSM and female-led relationships, BDSM can be used to explore dominance and submission in a safe and consensual manner. By utilizing tools like communication, trust and mutual respect, BDSM can help foster a secure bond of understanding and mutual appreciation.

As a Dominatrix and FLR advisor, I have observed that when these elements are in place it can make for an extremely powerful relationship dynamic. It can be a great way for women to explore different sides of their personality and can be used to create a sense of freedom and self-expression. However, it is important to remember that BDSM should always remain consensual in order to maintain a healthy relationship.

Communication is key in BDSM, as it allows both partners to express their boundaries and discuss their desires openly All in all, communication is key in BDSM. It is essential for creating an environment of mutual trust and respect that allows both partners to express their boundaries, open up about their desires, and explore their fantasies ethically. Having honest conversations can often be a challenge, but blogging can be a great way to start discussing these topics in a safe and judgment-free space.

In conclusion, exploring fetishes and kinks in female-led relationships can be a highly rewarding and exciting experience for both partners. However, it is important to remember to practice safety and communication at all times, as well as respect each other’s limits. With a little bit of research and communication, these activities can add another dimension of pleasure and connection to the relationship.

7. What advice would you give to someone who wants to be a ‘perfect sub’ in a FLR ?

If you’ve been on the dating scene recently, you might have noticed something of a trend. Certain types of men seem to be going straight for the kinkier dating sites like FetLife and Kinkly.

While this may seem counterintuitive when we consider the general path of least resistance in dating, there are actually a number of reasons why men with certain sexual preferences choose online communities like these. One reason is that these communities are highly supportive and caring. Men with less mainstream sexual preferences often find themselves marginalized in mainstream society. Online communities like the ones listed above are warm, welcoming, and free of judgment.

But there’s another reason that men with certain kinks and fetishes tend to congregate online — and it has to do with an oft-overlooked fact: women really like kinks and fetishes, too.

As a matter of fact, there’s a pretty good chance that many women you know have at least a tendency of Domination.

At last, to be a perfect submissive or slave, OBEY, RESPECT, Trust BLINDLY and WORSHIP your Dominatrix or Mistress or Goddess and She will take good care of you. (however you term your owner)

8. Lastly, feel free to shamelessly plug your services , and how does one go about booking a session with you  ?

Shamelessly speaking, I am a Dominatrix. I don’t offer any services. It’s the people who comes to serve me. I convert their deep, dark desires, fantasies and fetishes to reality. You can call me a wish maker.

I like to help people to recognize their inner self without any judgements through my consultations, counsellings and sessions. Being an Indian, I introduced some holistic healing methods like Crystal or Gemstone therapy, Aromatherapy, Tarot Card Reading, Horoscope Reading impregnated with BDSM and FLR. BDSM is a very healing lifestyle.

Its not only a sexstyle which is confined to the four walls of someone’s bedroom . My purpose is to heal people with BDSM  FLR catalysed by certain ancient holistic traditional healing methods of India.

There we have it, Kinky Folks – now you know what is a FLR/Female Led Relationship!

A huge Shout-Out and thank you to Goddess Sikha for answering my questions on FLR for Podopheleus readers.

Follow Goddess Sikha on Twitter @servingsikha.

Kinksters all over the world, let’s support each other – so please SHARE this informative article with other like-minded sexual creatures! Also, feel free to hit me up on Twitter @podofeleus and Instagram @Podopheleus.

Much Kink Love,


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