Zealousideal-BV – INTERVIEW on Femdom

Podopheleus interviews Zealousideal-BV – Femdom, from the point of view of a submissive

Hello again, femdom lovers! I recently met Zealousideal-BV on Twitter. So, I posted on Twitter: “what are your submissive goals in 2022?” which sparked a number of interesting and positive responses from sub males. And yes, you guessed it, one of the sub males, was in fact – Zealousideal-BV! And this is what he posted:ย 

“My Femdom Goals for 2022 is to explore my limits in a safe environment with Field Experts to truly understand the intensity of such sessions, including Breath Play and Findom. And, not limiting to but grow in CBT, Anal Play and Impact Play. And,  to Meet some of the best and Ones I truly admire, In Person, post covid. Spread Submissive awareness in Femdom. In today’s time we have so many scammers that genuine subs make mistakes with choices, later regretting them.”

Zealousideal-BV

We carried on our conversation about femdom, spreading positivity etc. Which led to this interview. Before we get started, I asked Zealousideal-BV to write a little introduction about Himself.

Introducing Zealousideal-BV

This is Zeal.

I am a Content Writer and a Digital Management Enthusiast for SWers. My aim is to bring the strength of admin and growth work for SWers, so as they can focus on better mental health and living, and creating art.

I am a avid fan of anal play, CBT and Impact Play all clubbed with main foundation of my original path to Submission, Servitude and Worship. I started on this journey myself, and finally explored the depths with my first Pro Domme, Lady Valeska. I had my first Pro Session as a Virtual one due to Covid and we not living in the same location. 

But, her humbling acceptance of who I was and to facilitate my eagerness through her presence of warm heart and tad bit cruel player during session allowed me to accept more of who I am for a person I admire in a D/s Space

1. Tell us your story, how did you get into femdom? 

My story is like any other person who exists in our society, through video art of BDSM. Initially what I could see was everything Male oriented and Male Gazed making me intrigued, does the Female Perspective exist? This is when I came across Cybill Troy’s Pegging Video and the rest is history. 5 years of myself exploring in the BDSM Community as a Slave which started as Submissive leaning Switch.

2. Zealousideal-BV, what does femdom mean to you? Do you view it as a sign of weakness or strength?

Femdom was more about myself feeling liberated. The background I come from, we are very male dominated. So, to have my pure submission to a Woman was very instinctive. Reason being, it was taboo, and as humans we always crave for exploring Societal Taboos, to understand what they are, and why they are in the first place. Femdom is about supporting the Growth of the Woman, while they are in control of the path. Like we love to make cars, but crave for a woman driving it. I never saw it as a sign of weakness. To accept more of myself and my vulnerabilities, it was all about being more strong from witness. So, I see it as a strength, to believe and own up to who you are.

3. Why do you think there is so much stigma around femdom? And how can we overcome the “femdom stigma?”

Stigma around Femdom is and will always be due to our ancestral association of society. Never or rarely did we ever read about Women in power doing wonders for society, it was always the Male who got proper attention. Or, that is what our textbook read for us. Stigma is again about the Gender Ratio across the Globe, Male are more compared to Women, bringing the idea into senses of we are more than you, so we control the narrative. When Women started to take stand for themselves, society couldn’t digest it, making it yet another existing stigma for us.

How can we overcome the “Femdom Stigma”? Well there is no direct answer to it, as it would again require a long revolution and shift of entire dynamics of the Ecosystem. What we as Slaves and Submissives can do is, empower the Females in our lives and let them take the lead. We are the rock lifters and let them show us where to keep them for building their castle. To make Femdom mainstream, it is going to take a while, but as a community we have to back each other and keep uplifting everyone, so when they do big things on bigger stages, the name is reflected in the right manner.

4. Do you think femdom will ever become mainstream? If yes, what steps will “WE” as a community need to take to turn this vision into a reality?  

I believe so. We are seeing the shift already, but it will again take some time to actually get it processed in everyone’s mind. BDSM itself is not mainstream yet, and if we look closer, we are Subset of the BDSM Community. What we should root more for is BDSM being accepted more in society which then pushes the ideology of Femdom around.

Steps we need to take is from very beginning and scratch, proper sex education. You can explore the sea, if you don’t know how to use a boat. This is what it is. I cant name fancy things to be done, but basics education on Sex will pave a long way in exploration of oneself, leading to building better consensual community.

5. How has femdom helped you? Is femdom something you wanted or needed? Can you explain your answer?

Femdom helped me in multiple ways, to be honest. Most important being consensual about a lot of things in life. We are to be let go of many things, as society projects, but while BDSM Exploration I understood, several things were wrong, and I never raised my voice for myself. So Femdom made me empowered of myself, my body and brought a distinctive calmness in life. Being Bound, Hit (Impact Play), Verbally talked, etc. 

Femdom is what I believe I need. It made me patient, more calm, and opened my eyes to different avenues of exploring myself. The craving of someone controlling the narrative for me, for my betterment is something which allowed me to explore more in those senses.

6. If one has a Femdom fantasy, but doesn’t have financial stability to pay for a prodomme. How do they go about exploring their femdom desires?

This is a very personal question for me. Read and Listen. You are not an IT Engineer from the day you decided to Code, were you? You took proper classes, education, listened to several people, read through multiple literature. The same goes with it. Femdom in the broader spectrum is beautiful, but it still has some nuances to it. Not everything is for everyone. Like a chef might be able to cook everything, but they also have their specific forte. 

Femdom, or BDSM in general is more in those layers only. It is about understanding what your mind and heart crave. Read on them, Listen Podcasts, Interviews, attend Munches to feel comfortable in what you like or might not like.

Then with specific likings, explore them with a Pro-Domme to keep the safety in check, and to explore them in a better environment with experts.

7. Lastly, what are your femdom goals in 2022? And why should one follow your account?

My Femdom Goals for 2022 is to explore some of my edge plays with a current Domme I am seeing Virtually and finally get to meet her in person for a longer session, once covid is controlled. 

Spread Submissive awareness in Femdom. In today’s time we have so many scammers that genuine subs make mistakes with choices, later regretting them.

Why should one follow my account, haha.

This is for them to decide. My account will dabble into the World of SWers only. Be in Vanilla, Kinky, etc. I want to spread better and more consensual awareness. But being Kinky myself, it would definitely have a ladder leaning. I am planning to run my blog soon. But focus would be to help SWers grow better and allow them to take charge of their art in a more mindful way and take away the concerns of stressing over work, mental break down, total burn out etc.

Podopheleus, with all my graces, thank you so much for interviewing me. It was lovely to answer your questions.

There we have it, Kinksters! 

I hope you enjoyed reading this interview blog on Femdom, from the point of view of a submissive. A big shout-out to Zealousideal-BV! Thank you for answering my questions so thoughtfully.

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Much Kink Love,

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